Sara Dunford-Lloyd made an impression on me as soon as we meet. She was a woman who was “all in”. She had an inner strength, a strong conviction of what she felt was right for her and her family. She was kind, spirited and she was brave to share her vulnerability in a way I rarely have encountered. She was honest and brave enough to show up and let herself be seen, regardless if she was having a good or a bad day.
Today it’s her funeral, a day for friends and families to once again rally together to celebrate her life and her spirit but also to celebrate life itself. A day to remember that love, belonging and connection is what gives purpose and meaning to our lifes. It makes us all feel better, strong and motivated to get up in the morning when life feels dark, the knowing that we are never alone, that we are all in this together. It’s also a day to remember, what William Martin so eloquently put is his poem “Make the ordinary Come Alive”, that it’s the simple little things in life that makes it extraordinary.
Make the Ordinary Come Alive
Do not ask your children to strive for extraordinary lives.
Such striving may seem admirable,but it is a way of foolishness.
Help them instead to find the wonder and the marvel of an ordinary life.
Show them the joy of tasting tomatoes, apples, and pears.
Show them how to cry when pets and people die.
Show them the infinite pleasure in the touch of a hand.
And make the ordinary come alive for them.
The extraordinary will take care of itself.
Sara and I never knew each other before her illness, but when she asked for help to capture her dream wedding, I saw it as my calling to do my bit to fore fill her wish and connected with her. I’m delighted that I did.
In Sara’s last email to me she said :
“Gisela, They( the photos) are beautiful! That will be cherished by the boys long after I am gone and by me for as long as live. When I am else where I will be looking after you! My love to all your family. Sara xx”
And I think she will be, keeping an eye out on all of the people who she loved and who touched her life.
To me, it made me think of the priceless gift capturing your moments are. Sara is no longer with us, but her family will have these photos to remember her by forever.